Full of One

1. So kamusta naman na? This holiday is kakaiba. Nagdecide kami with some of the fam to spend Christmas in Bangkok. Naenjoy naman. Nagenjoy din bulsa ko, kaloka. On a more personal note, I am happy kase I got to spend time with my Mom out of country and we talked some plans in the coming years. Matanda na rin si Mama and we are catching up on the lost time. One thing I realize is puwede at kaya naman pala mag out of town as long as the logistics are planned well. May kasama din kaming pamangkin so there are many considerations. Well for one thing, we did not DIY. Halos lahat di sundo at pa private tour. That is where the preparation takes the details. I needed to consider the hotel's vibes as well. Naitawid naman namin. I also got to have as much sleep. Yung schedule naman namin is not mala Amazing Race. Maka quota kami ng isang activity per day, ok na. Usually for dinner sa hotel na lang. I intend to organize a yearly event. It may not always be outside the country pero consistent dapat.

2. At nagpaiwan na rin ako dito. I like Bangkok. It's like Manila with triple upgrade. Sometimes I see myself making a living here. Supposedly babalik na ako sa Seoul but then naisip ko, malamig, naka leave naman ako, or puwede naman akong mag work from home and honestly, I do not like feeling celebrating my yearender there. Somehow I do not like seeing my friends there rin muna. Parehas lang naman na magisa ako almost all the time, eh dito na lang. So far, bedrotting and doomscrolling haha. Ewan ko, most of the time I am here in bkk, I do not usually plan in details. Basta ok na sa akin na malapit sa MRT/ BTS and I can go anywhere I like. My plan is to just get the sense of calmness and gratitude and renewal in the coming year. 

3. There is a lot to be grateful in 2025 with all its challenges and gains. I am just grateful na nalampasan natin ang mga hanash. Work was steady. Health was steady but needs more effort. Sa aspetong financial, nagkakautang pero nababayaran naman kalaunan. 

But one aspect na hindi natin makakaila this year was working out my mental state of mind. Six months din tayong pabalik balik sa counseling center. I showed up with the hope that I keep myself at bay with all my anxiety, fear, and ruminations and self pity. I was bored, challenged, chronically dissatisfied. I was resenting for no reasons. Kulang na lang kumanta ako ng Reflection (more of Christina Aguilera's Version), 'Who is that girl I see, staring straight at me, back at me?' Kaloka but true. 

As I cap off my year, I realize that most of the time this year, I just chose to not exert effort. I procrastinated. I simply chose not to do, not to pursue things. I made a lot of personal excuses. I made a lot of time planning, sorting out. I overhwhelmed and overcommitted. I put everything in half-baked. Kung makumpleto naman, dinadownplay agad and I do not cherish enough. And I know this is not true and this is also being unfair to myself. 

4. I realized that I had been 'full of myself'. I miss the 'hard work'. I miss taking chances. I miss my myself thriving, vibrant, my gayness. Yung hindi ka takot magkamali. Namiss kong maging maganda. At feeling ko, I  have been shit talking for most of the time this year. Again, alam ko naman that this is not true. This is also being unfair to myself. Feeling ko maraming nawalang opportunities sa akin or nag stall muna because of I took care of my mental state. Nag rest muna ako. Nag steady ng routine. I just let it flow. Sabi ng therapist ko, If I think maraming nawala sa akin this year because of depression, can it also be true na marami ka ding na gain when I decided to work out of my depression? 

5. What did I gain? I gained a sense of peace and resolve. I gained a sense of calmness and continuous healing. I feel braver because I showed up. I feel more confident because I accepted to become vulnerable. One thing that struck me in our sessions was she said that depression is not a label, but it is a feeling. Just like any other feeling, it is fleeting. Almost a fleeting year.  I think and feel I become a better person this year, in all honesty.